The boy that I’ve been seeing has a reputation for hooking up with a lot of girls. Also, I’ve heard rumors that he has a girlfriend! I don’t want a boyfriend, so I don’t care if he’s talking to other people, but if he has a girlfriend, I don’t want to be involved. I’ve asked him a million different ways and each time he avoids the question. I think it’s very sketchy, and I don’t know what to do.
Not a Side Chick
Dear Not a Side Chick,
You’re right to not want to be involved if there’s another girl in the picture. If he’s avoiding this question, it’s likely the case. They might not be exclusive, but, regardless, you have a right to know. If you don’t feel comfortable, you should probably just stop talking to him. If you want to give him one last chance, though, you should offer him an ultimatum. Say, maybe, that he has to tell you the truth or you’re not going to see him anymore. If he’s worthwhile, he’ll be honest, and then you’ll have your answer. If he continues to avoid it, you should probably not see him anymore.
There’s a girl I’ve had my eye on for a few weeks that I keep having funny encounters with. She’s really cute and everything, but she used to date a kid that I’m friendly with so it’s a little awkward. Would it be a bad idea to ask her to hangout?
Dear Bad Friend,
It all really depends how close you are with this friend. If he used to vent to you about her, she’s probably off-limits. If you sit with him sometimes in the caf because he’s friends with your friends, it’s probably not a big deal. After all, Fordham is not that big of a school. I’m sure you’re not the first to end up with your friend’s ex. If you aren’t sure whether he’ll get mad or not, you should probably ask him just to avoid any drama.
Over the past few weeks, all of my ex-boyfriends have been suddenly getting new girlfriends. I’m not interested in any of them still, but it’s stressing me out. Is it normal to feel this way?
Dear Super Single,
Your exes are your exes for a reason, right? There was no reason why you should go back to them before, and now that they’ve moved on to other people, there is still no reason. You’re just stressed because they’re with people and you’re not, which is natural. Even though you don’t want to be with them, the fact that they’ve moved on is annoying, especially when all of them have moved on at the same time. Try your best not to stress, and keep this quote by C.S. Lewis in mind: “There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.”
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