Dear Emma,
Right before break I was out at the bars with my friends and somehow my ex and I started fighting. We haven’t talked in like two months, but he started yelling at me about something that’s been bothering him. I started yelling back about something that had been bothering me, and it got pretty ugly. Although we were basically screaming at each other at 3 a.m., I honestly am so happy we talked. This whole time I thought he just didn’t care and was completely not fazed by the fact that we weren’t together anymore. The next day he said he wanted to talk about it again because we didn’t really settle anything. I’m trying not to let it get to my head, but I’m not really sure what to make of it.
Sincerely,
Frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
I see what you’re saying; he wouldn’t be yelling at you if he didn’t care. However, ex territory is dangerous. You don’t seem like you had the healthiest relationship if you both felt the need to keep things bottled up for so long. I agree that you should try not to let anything get to your head, just keep having fun for now. If you and him ever do get to talk, maybe you should agree to tell each other when things are bothering you so that that doesn’t happen again. If you don’t feel comfortable with that, then just tell him the things that would bother you if he did them. It’s obvious you still have feelings for him, aand it seems that he might still have feelings for you too so, be careful. You can miss somebody and not want him or her in your life anymore. Just look out for yourself.
Good luck.
Emma
Dear Emma,
A boy I was talking to over the summer from home recently started texting me again. We stopped talking because we were both going back to school, which was fine, but one day he just stopped answering! It made me furious. Now that we are going to be home again for the summer, he wants to start seeing me again. What’s your advice?
Sincerely, Ugh
Dear Ugh,
That’s exactly what it sounds like. This guy sounds like he talks to girls when it’s convenient for him, and now that you’re fitting in his schedule again, he’s contacting you. If you were to talk to him again, he’d probably do the same thing that he did last year. Since that hurt you last year I don’t think you should. If I were you, I’d say something to him about not answering you in the fall. Tell him that you don’t want to talk to him now, and be firm, because he’s most likely going to try and use that as an angle to continue talking. If you’re set on not getting hurt again, tell him to go away!
Good Luck.
Emma
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