Friend-less
Dear Friend-less,
My initial advice would be to reach out to her one more time. Make sure she gets the message that you understand her new friendship means a lot to her, but that your relationship with her means a lot to you. The two friendships can co-exist, but that requires efforts from both parties. If you can’t reconcile with this other girl, and your friend isn’t willing to put in the effort when you get home, then you’re just going to have to try and accept it. Clearly the friendship is worth the effort to you, and if it was worth it to her, she would make sure you don’t feel neglected. If she doesn’t make the effort, she’s not as good of a friend as you thought she was anyway. It’s sad, but you did try your best, and you can’t make somebody do something they don’t want to. Definitely give it one last attempt, but try not to have any hard feeling, because sometimes friends just drift apart.
Emma
Dear Emma,
It’s my first year here at Fordham and midterm week really freaked me out. My workload wasn’t nearly as heavy in high school and I don’t think I was prepared enough. I studied hours for my exams and worked on my papers as much as I could, but I don’t think I had enough time to thoroughly look over everything. I’m nervous about my grades. Help!
Need a 3.0
Dear 3.0,
Unlike high school, college requires a lot of “outside class” work. In high school, you spent more time in the classroom and less outside doing homework. In college, a lot of the work is up to you. Since you receive the syllabus at the beginning of the class, you can see when your midterms are and when your papers are due. If you think time management is an issue for you, simply start working on your things early! At the beginning of the semester, outline each chapter for each class. Start your papers early and go to the writing center before they’re due. A little more effort during the semester will go a long way when it’s midterm week. Good luck, and don’t forget to save all of your review sheets for finals!
Emma
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