It sounds like this boy has some commitment issues, quite possibly from his past experiences in relationships. The best way to figure out what his concerns are is to simply ask about his past relationships and how they affected him so you can get an idea of why he’s hesitant with you.
Also, a year is a long time to be occupied with one person with no commitment. You must not forget to continue to be open-minded toward other guys. While this boy is beating around the bush and not asking you to be his girlfriend, you could be missing out on another great guy.
I broke up with my girlfriend about two months ago. We had been on and off for a year, but I really didn’t treat her right. We went home for Christmas break, and I thought I was over her, but ever since we’ve been back at school I can’t stop thinking about her. I see her everywhere, and I hear about her being with other guys, and it really bothers me. I think she’s already moved on, though, and she’s said before that she’s not giving me another chance. I really miss her, and I want to be with her again, but I don’t know how to fix it.
Dear Stupid Head,
Well, I don’t know the details, but it sounds like you didn’t appreciate her. It’s possible that she’s moved on, but you don’t know that for sure. If you’re really serious about getting back together and you’re going to treat her well, you should tell her that. Keep in mind that you have to act on it and prove it to her. You should really think about it though. If you’re uncertain, it’s not fair to give her false hope. She might not want to give you a second chance, but you might as well try. You can get over missing someone, but regret is not as easy to heal.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a couple of weeks, and he’s pushing me to meet his parents already. I come from a very Italian background, and when one of us brings home a boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s a huge deal. I don’t think I’m ready for that. I don’t mind meeting his parents, but does that mean I have to introduce him to mine? Will he mind?
It’s nice you want to meet his parents; that’s a good sign. However, in no way does that obligate you to bring him home. He should understand this, but if he doesn’t just tell him that you come from different backgrounds and it’s nothing personal. Bring him home when you’re ready.
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